A great mistake is to discuss your marital problems or
difficulties with neighbors and relatives. Suppose, for example,
a wife says to the neighbor, “John never gives me any money.
He treats my mother abominably, drinks to excess, and is
constantly abusive and insulting.” Now, this wife is degrading
and belittling her husband in the eyes of all the neighbors
and relatives. He no longer appears as the ideal husband to
them. Never discuss your marital problems with anyone
except a trained counselor. Why cause numerous people to
think negatively of your marriage? Moreover, as you discuss
and dwell upon these shortcomings of your husband, you are
actually creating these states within yourself. Who is thinking
and feeling it? You are! As you think and feel, so are you.
Relatives will usually give you the wrong advice. It is usually
biased and prejudiced because it is not given in an impersonal
way. Any advice you receive which violates the golden rule
which is a cosmic law, is not good or sound.
lived beneath the same roof without clashes of temperament,
It is well to remember that no two human beings ever periods of hurts and strain. Never display the unhappy side of
your marriage to your friends. Keep your quarrels
Refrain from criticism and condemnation of your partner.