A husband must not try to make his wife over into a
second edition of himself. The tactless attempt to change
her in many ways is foreign to her nature. These attempts are
always foolish, and many times result in a dissolution of the
marriage. These attempts to alter her destroy her pride and
self-esteem, and arouse a spirit of contrariness and resentment
that proves fatal to the marriage bond.
Adjustments are needed, of course, but if you have a
good look inside your own mind, and study your character
and behavior, you will find so many shortcomings, [and] they
will keep you busy the rest of your life. If you say, “I will
make him over into what I want,” you are looking for trouble
and the divorce court. You are asking for misery. You will
have to learn the hard way that there is no one to change but
yourself.